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Read MoreToday I found myself blessed to watch my son Kevin participate as an altar server at mass for the first time. It is a moment which almost put tears of joy in my eyes. Why? I could see in his eyes and his deeds he wanted this moment with all his heart.
Last night Kalen and I prepared Kevin by holding a practice mass, as conducted at RCA with Father Tran's preferences, twice on our deck. Kevin impressed me with his memory of how the bells rung, the way people stepped around the altar, holding his hand on his chest and the procession in which he would accompany the priest to the nursery to deliver the Eucharist to those working there. I already knew he memorized much of the consecration prayers, but this was pretty amazing for me to see first hand. For all of his daily eight year old distractions, he was paying attention every mass.
Today two upper school boys, John Paul and Stephen, took Kevin over to the chapel to set up and do a final rehearsal. This is something which endears me to Regina Caeli. Our youth are normal youth, but we parents call them out a little more each year to live their faith. At the end of a 15 minute preparation, Kevin came out tripping over the seam of the smallest cassock and stood with Father Tran and Stephen to enter the mass.
He went down the isle with his serious face on, and nervously looked over to Stephen from time to time to make sure he was doing the right thing. Stephen looked out for Kevin as a big brother should, and Kevin earned a smile from Father Tran. Kevin sure made his Daddy proud. It sounds silly to many, but I was proud because he entered the Army of Christ today at the altar of our Lord as a willing servant for the community. it is a major step on the road to adulthood of life and faith.
Thank you God for letting me see this day in the company of so many good friends!
-ehw
Just a moment of fun as my son reaches for the sky. I never knew one could get so high on a swing...but he pulled it off! It reminded me of what we can do when we don't let fear overcome our lives, and let our faith in Christ guide us on the right path to achieve the aims of God above. it may be close to the meaning Christ wanted us to remember when he said we needed "Faith like a Child."
-ehw
It is an interesting week in our house. Most of the normal home life continues. Dance, Robotics, and letting the kids play outside....normal life. After a few months being under so many guns it was nice to also have friends over and see a movie with them...and eleven kids had a pizza night! Then there was the opportunity to just for a few minutes enjoy John Paul getting to settle down on my chest for a nap...after a few minutes of ear piercing complaining!
Life is still crazy, but it needs living and sound of worship to abound for it to have meaning.
-ehw
When you give my girl music, a dress and a light saber you get a whole new version of the Saber Dance! She takes after her big sister who as I type is spinning in the kitchen as she loads up her breakfast cereal. All children at some point need to enter the real world, but for now I love keeping them safe to dream and play in a wholesome way.
-ehw
Two Lovely Girls
First day of Fall Break with a broken refrigerator! Mom is out with the boys for a medical appointment, so Daddy gets his girls all to himself! So Daddy takes the girls out to the place he can afford, and he knows Kellie will eat the Chicken Nuggets! What else can you do afterwards than get the girls a present! Yes I splurged again and got them each a prayer card for our school room collection!
Sometimes the snapshot is what you need to take home as a good memory, and today my snapshot caught smiles on two roomates happy and lovely with their Dad. Fourteen and three...and the two who have their Daddy wrapped around their finger. It won't win any awards, but it is the moment that clicked.
-ehw
The Doctor was in last Saturday night. She did house calls for everybody! Luckily she confirmed we are all in pretty good shape headed into our Fall Break from school. We are almost homebound since we still have three days of dance, two Robotics classes, doctor's appointments, a dead refrigerator, and music! Regardless of our staycation status, we should have time for plenty of moments like this one where we enjoy a few moments of family time...can get the house set for fall both inside and out!
-ehw
Today's I want to challenge each of us to look at the house of cards we live in. Are the cards built from God's playing deck or of man's? This rather simple examination of our personal lives can save our souls.
If I was to look at the United States right now, I would say our house definitely plays with man's deck of cards. Here are three examples. The continued promotion of abortion by elites means we pay to kill people at the rate of over one million a year! With a birthrate in the US of native born below replacement levels, you can effectively say we are committing genocide to ourselves. The continued promotion of Keynesian economics says we play God with money, making something out of nothing. The debts racked up, and increased economic burden they place on the economy also mean we are placing a noose around our future capabilities. Finally the rewriting of history to remove the need of God to keep order in society removes a key component to our national system of laws. Our legal basis for existence in the Declaration of Independence states we must act under Natural law or Nature's God for final authority in what we do. Yes this is a Christian concept, when discarded allows us to convolute any decision to meet our personal tastes. This allows materialism to sweep the nation, selfish leaders, and promotes issues one and two.
I am just a fallen man, but I would say the house of cards photographed above provides abetter example of living life well. St Joseph, the chaste spouse who cared for Mary and Jesus through years of exile and threat of death by the King of Judea silently following the will of God. St Peter, the man who's Holy Spirit powered faith sustained him through trial, torment, and the creation of a church enroute to his own cross of crucifixion. St Sebastian, who guarded the Emperor until he received the choice to burn incense to a false God. St Francis of Assisi who gave us a great example of working towards peace, and always knew God creates things from nothing not man. St Augustine who's writings illuminated the scripture, and demonstrated why he needed to turn from sin filled life to become one with God's will. Finally St Boniface, who demonstrated to Druids their trees served the one God's will when he cut their biggest down to make a church from the lumber.
We have a choice of cards to build our lives. If we want the life eternal, it is best to pick the cards God designed, and the examples of those who followed God to eternal life in heaven as role models. Following the example of Margret Sanger, Keyes or Stalin, Mao, Hitler and current history rewriters only leads to a life which ends with death and self chosen life of separation from the eternal paradise.
-ehw
Fathers have many responsibilities towards their children. The foremost is to call them to adulthood. By adulthood I will further clarify by defining this as the ability of a person to take responsibility for their actions, care for themselves, and to assume the role as a mentor to others. Fathers undertake this task in many ways, since fathers and their children are each unique in personality and temperament. Looking at the headlines today, one can see the effects of a world where fatherhood was neglected or neutered by over feminization for a generation.
The first and foremost venue to raise a child into adulthood is the home. In the home a father can, and should demonstrate the agape and friendship needed to make a marriage thrive through the many challenges life throws our way. When a child sees the toil we go through, and many forms of love needed to keep this vital relationship alive, they will be better prepared to be a spouse themselves. Logically, this also provides proper formation for our religious as well to serve the families placed in their care.
Other outside venues should serve to enhance those homebound lessons. You can use sports, camping, youth groups, lego clubs or an organization like Blue Knights clubs to reinforce those internal values. The key to successful use of these other venues will be how you as a Father keep Christ in the center, and make a child move towards the three goals of adulthood mentioned above.
I believe a key ingredient to raising a child in the Western tradition is the inclusion of chivalry in all we fathers do, and expect of our children. Chivalry is in no way an outdated concept for men or women. It actually puts in place a set of guidelines to create peaceful order amongst people, without a need for governmental intervention in all human relationships.
Chivalry sets us all under the kingship of God. Christians know all our works here on earth will receive judgement at the end of our lives, and determine our eternal home. This provides vital aspect of accountability lacking in modernism. It also conforms with the teachings of the Catholic faith we seek to instill into our children's lives.
Once we assume we are under the kingship of God, everything else starts falling in place. We respect our elders and mentors. We assume responsibility for our personal care, and seek not to burden others with our poor or slothful decisions. We serve at the feet of those who teach us, and serve those placed in our care when posted to leadership positions. We respect our bodies, and keep them pure to fulfill our adult vocation. We respect the opposite sex, and marvel in the ways our complementary natures build the kingdom of God on earth better than one alone.
As fathers we seek to move our children towards these principles of life. Chivalrous fathers do not make excuses, or blame others for our personal or children's failures to reach ideal behavior. Instead of complaining, we work towards righting the wrong or finding the cause of a problem. Chivalrous fathers also do not run from their duties, they embrace them. We use the marvelous gifts of the Holy Mother Church to obtain spiritual forgiveness, guidance, and the strengthening fortification of Eucharist. When we see a need of a youngster who is without a chivalric example in life, we provide it.
Fathers have a Knightly call. Fathers and men who respond to this call can do a great deal to help put Godly order back into the world. In this author's opinion, it might be a great way to help the world our one Knight at a time.
I will simply say last night was glorious.
A day full with early diaper changes, management of an energetic three year old, four hours with 10-13 year olds working on Lego Robotics, too much work not done around the house, and a still recovering Momma ended in an evening of riches and thanksgiving to God.
Why? Because after years of fighting the thought I am finally putting nails, locks and fittings on the lid of the modernism heresy in my life. I still like fast cars, the best house, fast computers, new cameras and fancy dresses for my girls. I just know the true rewards in a fleeting life meant to work our way to heaven are the moments where God's love shines through us. I'll work hard to get the tools needed to survive, but not to the detriment of the mission of unity with God.
So when John Paul fell asleep on my shoulder before dinner, just brining him to the table nestled there with the rest of the family was a joyful moment of God's plan for heaven peeping through. I could almost imagine the four babies we lost with us at the table as well...the whole family was there in a moment of peace. It is almost a moment one would hope could be eternal.
I am finally following Jesus guidance by accepting in my heart, my true kingdom is not of this world. This world is a passing moment in our eternal lives. The eternal is the reward. What a wonderful table that will be.
-ehw
Eighteen years ago today...right about now a young 26 year old Army Infantry Captain stood at the door of a 23 year old Army Nurse Lieutenant to go on a blind date in Columbus, Georgia. What a ride it became!
For the record two things happened, which rate as miracles. See Carrie's Dad picked up the phone when I called her apartment! He did not interrogate me during the phone call, like he should have. Then he even left to go home to Los Angeles the morning of our date after having Daddy time with his girl! Oh if he only knew! I would have been gone!
The second miracle was she said ok to the date...my offer must have been so bad that her friend Polly had to tell her "What is the worst that can happen? You get dinner and a ride in a nice new truck!"
Since that day we've only been apart when duty called. I cannot believe how full my life became since that blessed day. Five kiddos later she still loves me, which counts as yet another miracle!
I am lucky and blessed a hundred times over!
-ehw
Today I had the opportunity to attend the Blue Mass honoring and praying for all First Responders with Bishop Gregory at Christ the Redeemer in Atlanta. Met many men and women who man the line and guard us from the terrors of the night. Thanks be to God for such men and women.
I pray our nation returns to God with respect for Natural Law and the life of the unborn so we can be the great nation our founders intended.
-ehw
Just a month ago I had a baby girl roaming my house. Today I have this little girl, who reminds me she is a big girl. She puts in hair in ponies and tells me she is cute, and plays with toy horses with glee. She chases her brothers with lightsabers with complete abandon, and swings with power a Sith could desire. Oh where has my baby girl gone?
The baby girl is now a determined little girl. Her red hair, gleams in the sun and proclaims the fire of her will to set things right. Mary Kate Danaher (Maureen O'Hara-the quiet man) would meet her match in this little lady! This little girl keeps the boys on notice, and then smiles coyly at her Dad...keeping him wrapped around her still little finger. Oh the Daddy knows the trick being played, and only prays the rosary harder begging for her to use that fire for the Lord all her days! What a force for God she could one day be!
My baby girl is now a little girl...and all is as it should be!
-ehw
These are the moments when a parent's heart melts just a little. Between normal conflicts children have over toy ownership, using crayons on someone else's homework, songs being sung too many times, and a dozen other issues we occasionally have little moments where we catch a glimpse of parental heaven. Whenever your children find displaying the love of friendship (filia) for the fate of their siblings, you know something you are doing worked to get God's message through to your charges for at least a moment.
If our parental hearts melt in joy with a moment like this, I can only imagine the joy in heaven when one of us reaches sainthood to go beyond the gates into heaven. Angels of all types singing, saints of old grinning and reaching for our hand, and a parental smile on Christ after passing the test of our final judgement might be amongst the sights and sounds we'd see. Oh the glories of such thought!
Well for five minutes I saw my parental heaven walking before me again...I hope we all get to enjoy it in heaven as well!
-ehw
My new prayer book...
Do you need someone to pray with you? For you? The prayerbook above is meant for you!
How did this happen? (This is the hardest post I've composed over the last four years!)
In 2014, after much introspection, I realized a need for more consistent personal prayer in my life. Prayer with God needs to happen in good times, meditative times, times of discernment as well as times of need. A year ago I failed in most of those areas by being hit or miss. On cue, God sent my son to me with a book about St. Dominic and the rosary. A year of growth started in earnest as I devoured the book. As I wrapped up the first year of work, I noted progress in many areas and several continued shortfalls.
Prayer from others literally kept me upright following our two 2014 miscarriages. Since then I made it a point to let others in need know I will pray for them as well. The opportunity to pray with others had two incredibly powerful moments this past year. One with close friends as we prayed over their sick child in the ICU. The other was with a co-worker recovering from a heart attack in a different ICU. In the second case it was special as we prayed with his wife and another friend from work.
I know God was listening, and I am grateful he supported full recovery for both requests. I don't want to sound crazy, but God's grace was so present in each moment I was shaking afterwards. The realization God was amongst us in those moments, tending to his children, left me feeling rather meek.
This year I wanted to be more consistent in fulfilling prayer requests as they came in. So I picked up a spiritual diary to catalog the requests over the next year.
I publicly announced this year's prayer campaign on St Dominic's feast day at John Paul's baptism. Current requests recorded so far include needs of friends for their parents, the manager of a transmission repair center fighting liver and pancreatic cancer, young men discerning their future vocation, our school's success at its mission, a friend's child with the same risks my wife had in pregnancy, a young priest at his parish, a new widow and her family, and two co-workers with heart ailments to mention just a few. I also have some for people who never asked, but just have an obvious need for someone to requests God's intercession on their behalf.
Each night I review the prayer requests, hold it close, and pray for those inside.
Prayer is the only thing I can do for most people I know in need. I have no worldly riches, and little spare time in my days to travel and be with the many I know in need.
So you can see, this prayerbook is for you. Please help me direct my prayers to God to help you, and I what I pray will be our collective journey to sainthood in the Kingdom of God.
-ehw
P.S. Reply to the post, shoot me an email or better yet give me a call! I'll add you to the prayer rolls!
As with most newborn families, we continue spending time letting Momma recover and John Paul his rest. We are now at the beginning of a period I look as magical. It is the time a baby can see further than his fist, shapes take on meaning, and eye contact begets social reactions.
In between common household chores with my four big kids, a quick reward trip for donuts at Mr. Dunkin's, and making an indoor BBQ we got time with the new son as his world expanded once again. This is the reward time for Dad's and family members. Facial gestures, words and coos get replies from this intelligent creature of God's creation. I also find this is when we start to get a fuller assessment of a child's personality.
So as we head off to church this is a typical slow, family oriented weekend in my home. Yet it is one I am fully thanking God for, because this is what the rewards of putting family life first is all about.
-ehw
The Crucifix in the St Michael the Archangel Chapel at Regina Caeli Academy
On Monday, Father Tran provided a wonderful homily at the Regina Caeli Academy's opening day mass. One very important thought Father wanted us to take home is a key step all of us need to take when building a relationship with Christ and the body of Christ. It focused on reorienting our discussion reference points while talking with God.
Most of us, myself as a sinner included, begin our discussions with God saying, "I am in need...I wish...I.....I....I...I" Father challenged us to recognize this type of thought and language implies the little partner in the relationship, or the child, is telling God to look at the world through our eyes. When you ponder the statement, you quickly realize the insanity of our normal position. We mortals, of limited senses and knowledge, tell the almighty and all knowing to work towards our designs.
After thinking through this situation for but a minute or two, most rational people will recognize we should really be walking a mile in God's shoes before we talk to the Almighty. Rather than asking the Lord to make straight the crooked path ahead to ease our burden, maybe we need to ask the Lord for strength to correct the mistakes we made while making the crooked path ahead the day before!
When we shift the thought process from our perspective to God's perspective, we can more readily accept the wisdom of God. This will mean more time walking with him, and less time arguing with our own selfishness. Just maybe that will lead us better on the path of salvation. The very path he called us to from the moment he formed us in our mother's womb..
-ehw
Oh a moment of sleep....a break for Mom
The vast majority of people outside our little homeschooling community think we were nuts for rejoicing on the possibility of a fifth child in our family. I could not disagree more with the majority.
The Bible described children as a blessing, and large families were a reward from God. Nowhere in the Bible does a large family equal a curse. I would agree having a large family however can present a challenge from time to time! So far nothing I've faced is insurmountable, just a great set of challenges.
With the arrival of child number five, good young John Paul, I look forward to enjoying one more round of moments like this one above. I have the seasoning of parenthood four times before to know snuggling with my baby on the couch, in between diaper changes, is one brief moment in time. The only moment in which I get to love my son with these cuddles. In a few years, he will be all boy and want to wrestle the old man into submission!
I received five wonderful sets of moments like this. I am looking forward more good times ahead, with the full knowledge valleys of darkness will exist as well. It is all part of the large family blessing I behold day in and out.
-ehw
P.S. Photo credit to my favorite assistant Carrie Wojtkun who caught me sleeping on the job! I did all the post processing for her!
Kalen holds John Paul on this 12th birthday today!
Today I officially received two more grey hairs. Kalen turned 12, and John Paul celebrated eighteen days! Kalen planned out his birthday almost all by himself.
The day started last night with vigil mass for the Feast of the Assumption of Our Lady. Kalen organized a simple get together today with good friends for a day of Nerf gun wars and legos. He made his gluten free cakes with Grandma, a time honored tradition, this AM to provide dessert. For lunch? Simple hot dogs with gluten free buns for those of us on the dole with him for sensitive tummies was his planned menu. It was his party, followed by a family pizza night where he watched a funny movie about Penguins from Madagascar. Tonight he went to bed beaming with the joy of friends and family being with him today.
All of his actions got me to thinking about when does a boy crossover to become a man? I could only think of the answering: "The man arrives when the boy begins to seek and take responsibility for his actions."
This young man is doing just those actions. It makes me proud to know he will do everything in his being to be a real man as he grows older. It makes me sad to know my eldest is no mere boy any longer. It also worries me, since I know this little man tries to take on more than he can chew or is responsible for.
I am still happy today to keep the promise made 12 years ago today. I promised to always get to church on the Feast of the Assumption and say a prayer of thanksgiving for a healthy child. Just attending mass with him last night was pure bliss in an of itself.
-ehw
P.S. John Paul is not a noisy child...unless he needs momma's special blend. He is also not a huge believer in flash bulbs!